The losing battle of the single mom

Restraining kids to their beds isn’t an option is it?  I need advice on how to keep my 4 year old from leaving her bed at night that also allows me to achieve a sane number of sleeping hours.  I told her that she could no longer sleep in her older sisters bed.  I want her to start sleeping in her own bed each night.  I spent an entire weekend painting and remodeling her room for her, I bought a bed, dresser, and a nightstand with a small tv.  The kid has it made, I slept in a sleeping bag my entire 2nd grade year and I didn’t have a dresser until I bought one when I was 18.  But does any of that matter? No.  She sneaks out of her room every night and crawls into her sisters bed.  I’ve tried to guard the door, I caught her twice last night but she is a night owl and always out last me!  I resulted to threats last night, I told her if I woke to find her in her sisters bed she would be punished.

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I woke up, went straight to her room, No Hailee?  Go to her sisters room look in bed, no Hailee?  Small heart attack, as I catch a glimpse of a small people on the floor.  It’s Hailee, sleeping in her sisters room on the floor.  I’m losing this fight.

Mixing pleasure with work 😏

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I’m supposed to be learning about the different structures of the skeletal system.  While taking pictures of each piece of bone to study later at home I took the most epic photo of this Mandible.  I’ve always loved photography and now I want to go around taking beautiful pictures of every piece of bone in class!  Well I’ve got to go back to work, tally ho!

Four year old grown up

Mornings are the busiest part of our day.  As I rush around reminding each kid of what they have left to do to get ready, I try to do various house chores.  I usually clean when I come home from work or school but throughout the night the kids get up and roam through the kitchen, Hailee may have an accident and change clothes, they secretly create a fort… whatever the case, there is always more work in the morning! A few days ago while we were in our morning rush my 4 year old daughter Hailee decided to change her clothes and leave them in the floor.  Fet up, I told her that she needed to pick her clothes up and walk them to the laundry hamper.  Then I continued to lecture her about how she needed to start taking care of herself because no one was going to clean up after her when she got older hahaha, I realize now how crazy I sound.  Well it turned out that Hailee took my words to heart.  Yesterday she made her own lunch, cleaned up her own messes all day and then she decided to make me dinner.

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She calls it lettuce soup.  It has celery, fruit loops, and milk in it.  She stood there with this super excited face just waiting for me to take a bite. So I did, I really did.  Oh my goodness, the things we do to make our children happy.  Needless to say, I won’t be giving Hailee anymore lectures until she learns her way around the kitchen.

Do I have to go to school!

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I feel too old to be going back to school.  I sit next to a 16 year old in my A&P class at the community college.  SIXTEEN!!! Our high school here allows the kids to do a dual enrollment program which allows them to do their high school classes at college to receive credit for both.  While that’s an amazing opportunity and I wish they allowed that while I was in high school,  I feel like that chick in the movie Never Been Kissed. On a more positive note, my instructor is a hottie 😉.  As an adult I have a better understanding of time and I know that spending a small portion of my life doing this bridge program from LPN to RN could change how I spend the rest of my life.  So despite my internal protest, I have to go to school!  Tally ho!

Bathroom renovation

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Do you see that awful blue bath tub?  That’s my only bath tub and after 50 years in has finally given way and cracked at the bottom.   As you know I’m a single mom so paying someone to replace the tub is too expensive for my tight budget.   I had a lowes contractor come out and give me a quote on the labor which was $5,000…. um yikes!!!  The bathtub I found to replace it only cost $300 so that means if I can tear this thing out and replace it using YouTube videos I’d save money that I don’t have to spend.   I know it’s an awful idea but it’s pretty much my only option.   My friend Jacob offered to help although he has never done this before either.   Any help would be greatly appreciated!!! I spent my Saturday looking at tile because Jacob has a tile cutter and said we could easily do the shower walls with that.  We found this amazing place in Crossville, TN that will sale pallets of tile for $35 bucks!  The employees that worked there were super chill and offered to give me a great deal on this tile I liked for 10 cents each.  I hit the jackpot!  I’m going to spend the next few weeks researching out how to do this project and then update how it went.

The social life of a single mom

img_2006I get two weekends out of the month to myself while my kids go to their dads.  Thankfully I have a pool full of friends to hang out with during me time.  This weekend I’ll be with my pals Jacob and Colton.  They are pretty much the coolest guys you could ever meet!  However that also means I have to clean my house… I don’t realize how crazy of a mess my house gets until I decide to have company over.  I need some quick clean up tips… I’m too exhausted to actually have this social life thing going on.

img_3354         On top of trying to get my house clean I’m running around like a chicken with its head chopped off after my children.  This morning 10 minutes before we were supposed to leave the house for school my 10 year old daughter comes to ask me if she can wear something different.  I asked why and she says, “Well because today is 50s day and I’ve signed up for a sock hop”. So panic mode set in and I ripped through her closet like a maniac trying to piece something together last minuteimg_3355

For a last minute outfit, I’m pretty impressed with my bad self… feeling like supermom at the moment but I’m sure when they come home this afternoon I’ll be brought back down off my high horse during some everyday fiasco.  But for now I’ll live in the moment and applaud my small successes!

Photo shoot in the snow

img_3258For the past several years I’ve been thinking about how to build my children’s college fund while staying financial stable at the same time.  About a year ago I saw opportunities in Atlanta, 3 hours from where I live, for acting and modeling.  My oldest daughter started working as a background artist shortly after.  Then was offered a job doing a photo shoot for the same show as one of the main characters younger version.  It brought it a good chunk of cash to start her savings account and since then I’ve been looking for work for my other daughters.

Our snowy weekend inspired a photographer that was offering model experience to do a snow shoot.  It was a chance to start investing in my middle daughters future so I dressed her in warm clothes then carried a big thick blanket to the shoot.  It only took about 5 minutes for the entire shoot and she did great!  She now has an audition we are going to on Tuesday night! I’m excited to see what the future holds for her and hopefully her college fund will grow!

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Let’s buildnow man! Just kidding I have to work…

img_3215We finally got our first snow of the season and my kids got out of school.   They woke up to a beautiful winter wonderland, wanting to run out and make snow angels, build an igloo, construct a fort to have a full on Jack Frost war. However just because school was cancelled doesn’t mean work was, and being a single mom I had to take my kids to work with me.  Luckily I work somewhere that understands my situation with the girls… my boss is my momma and luckily I have extremely incredible kids who mind their manners.  They have a pretty good set up at the office, they have the kitchen with all the yummy snacks drug reps bring, the waiting room with a tv and playset and then they have 2 exam rooms we don’t use that they play doctor in.

Maleah and Hailee don’t play well together.  Feel free to offer any advice that would help them get along.   Neither of them fight with Kali.  Neither of them have feuds with anyone else, but when they get together every look, every breath, every movement becomes a declaration of war!  We were getting close to closing, there were 2 patients in the exam rooms and 1 in the waiting room, that’s when I heard Maleah  shriek.  I marched to the kitchen to see what the fuss was about and apparently Hailee was pushing her.  After interrogating Hailee she stated that she was just throwing trash away and Maleah was guarding the trash can… “Ok, hands to yourself girls”.  What’s really weird is that they love to play together, they CHOOSE to play with each other when they don’t have to.   After a few more nonsense bickering I decided to wear them out…. I know what you’re thinking, no I didn’t spank them (I only resort to that if I feel they harmed someone or were doing something to harm themselves).  I’m not completely against spanking but I’m not completely for it either.  I feel that my kids learn their lessons better when a lesson is actually taught instead of spanking a lesson into them which only works to a certain extent of them learning out of fear.  I feel that time out, and talking things out after they’ve cooled down works the best.  They understand the WHY is punishment.  Anyways, when I say I decided to wear them out I mean physically hahaha I told them that between patients we should go to the stairwell and jog up and down for fun.  As an adult that sounds like the opposite of fun but to a kid it was just their cup of tea and I figured they were starting to fight because they were board so why not wear them out 😋.

When the work day was finally over we went home, got in our pjs, made homemade popcorn, hot chocolate and watched movies based on true stories… we basically cried the entire night haha but they loved it.  This single mom thing, it works for us.  I love our girl time, I love having them at work, I love being able to do whatever I want to do when I get home, I love watching chick flicks… I love being single!  One day someone may come along that makes me feel at home with them, until then I’ll keep enjoying my time with my girls ☺️

Top of the Morning

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I’ve  ended the holiday break with a bang! My sister and I were looking into things to do to bring in the New Year.  She wanted to find a dance or something to meet other singles but I suggested we do something for us.  Screw men, I want to focus on my happiness and do something new! As I brainstormed about it I came up with an idea that we should go to one of those painting classes.  Neither of us had ever been and I loved the idea of starting the New Year not only doing something new but creating something new! I had so much fun.  I sang and danced most of the night while painting and at the end they told me I had won the spirit award for having so much pep HA!  I didn’t even know there was a contest!  Even though the drive home almost killed me, seeing as my bedtime is strictly 8pm, I had a great night out which doesn’t happen often.  Turns out my kids ended up painting at theirs dads house New Years Eve as well, what are the odds?!

My sister is back home, and life as we know it has continued.  With the girls being back in school and me being at work I’m not so stressed anymore.  I know it sounds silly to get worked up over not having anything to do but I’m a busy body so being idle throws me into panic mode.  Don’t get me wrong I love to sit in “my chair” at home, we all have our special chairs we like to sit in, but I can’t watch TV without making a hat or have a morning cup of Joe without writing a blog post.  Welp, top of the mornin’ to you!  Tally Ho!

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Keith Urban on my lunch break

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Today I had to drive my sister to Nashville so she could fly back to California.  I usually only go to Nashville for my tattoo removal every two months.  Last time I was there my plastic surgeon suggested a cute coffee shop slash breakfast joint.  I took my 3 girls to get lunch there and as we waited for our food in walks the drop dead gorgeous Keith Urban with his daughters.  I sat there trying to pretend I didn’t notice him, you know so I didn’t seem like a crazy fan girl… but inside I was singing my heart out to “blue ain’t your color”.  He chose the table directly next to mine and I may have squealed a little on the inside.  Of course this would happen on the one day of the year I decided not to wear makeup or fix my hair!!! He was so kind to his daughters, and after their sweet lunch he bused his own table and walked his plates to the kitchen…. which I didn’t even do!  On his way out he grabbed a few napkins and handed them to me and I squealed out a thank you.  I was too much of a coward to ask for an autograph or picture, and I didn’t want to interrupt his meal with his kiddos but he made my day with his manners.  Gives me hope that real gentlemen still exist no matter how successful they become.  By the way I didn’t save the napkin hahaha I took a picture and then my daughter wiped her mouth with it.

We are finishing our fun day by having a Harry Potter marathon with homemade popcorn and our favorite PJ’s.   This has been a great holiday break!